July 16, 2014

Community Brew: Marriage


Marriage is the single thing that has taught me the most about myself and my Savior.




Marriage has helped me grow in my relationship with Jesus in so many ways.  One of the biggest and hardest lessons has been the fact that Jesus has to stay my number one priority for my marriage to be successful.  No matter how great Chris is, and he is pretty great if I say so myself, he will never be perfect.  He will never fulfill all of my needs.  He will always fall short because he is human, just like me.  Being married does not make you not need Jesus, it makes you need Him more!  It was hard for me to learn that my husband is going to let me down at times.  That he isn't perfect.  My eyes were opened that I sometimes hold him on a pedestal.  This can single handedly destroy a marriage.  It is when I realized that I needed Jesus more than I need Chris that I experienced such relief.  Chris no longer needed to be perfect in my eyes.  Because Jesus is perfect.  He has always been perfect and He will always be perfect.  What a relief that we praise a perfect savior so that we don't have to marry a perfect husband!

In the same sense, God has taught me that I'm not perfect.  I need Him to be the wife Chris deserves.  I cannot do it on my own.  I need patience.  I need kindness.  I need peace.  None of these things I can do on my own.  I have learned to rely on Christ for these needs rather than myself.  I have learned that I will never be enough on my own.  I have learned that I have a serious NEED for my Savior to get me through everyday life.  Not just a need for Him when things aren't going well.  I have a daily need for Him.  Through marriage, I have learned that I am even more of a planner than I thought.  But more importantly, I have learned to let go of my need to plan but instead to trust His plan.  




What has your relationship status taught you about your relationship with Christ? 

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10 comments:

  1. I was reading this morning in Luke about how we must "hate" our own father and mother, spouse, siblings, etc and put the Lord first...it struck me at first, because that word hate is so severe. But my Bible study book and Bible commentary just explains that no one can come before the Lord, not even our spouse. And it's really made me think about how I put Andrew on a pedestal and put him as my priority a lot of the time. God must be supreme, and then all else will fall into place.

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    1. That passage has hit me in the face before. It makes you realize how much of a difference there should be between our love for our husband and our love for the Lord. I struggle with this priority, but I love how God is working on my heart in this area! Things are so much easier when my priorities are in line. Thanks for stopping by friend!

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  2. I think marriage is such a growing experience, such an educational experience. I'm not the girl I was 4 years ago before I got married, and that's a good thing!
    p.s. your veil is stunningly gorgeous!

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    1. I completely agree! I know I won't ever be a perfect wife, so there is always things to learn and ways to grow! Thank you for your comment!
      p.s. thanks! :)

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  3. This is beautiful! I loved how you put it "Chris no longer needed to be perfect in my eyes. Because Jesus is perfect. He has always been perfect and He will always be perfect. What a relief that we praise a perfect savior so that we don't have to marry a perfect husband!"
    I seem to always put Matthew on a pedestal as well, and we're not even married yet! So I can only imagine what our marriage would be like if I thought he needed to be perfect ALL the time. I don't need him to be perfect because my Savior is perfect! And yes, that is such a relief and more of a reason to praise our Maker!!! Thank you for opening your heart!

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    1. Thank you for your sweet comment! I struggle to keep Chris off a pedestal. It is definitely an easier life when he's not. It's hard to remember that we should always look to our Savior for our needs and not our husband because our husband is physically there. Once those priorities are in line, it makes life easier for everybody!

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  4. Amen Martha Kate, it is such a struggle to find the balance in marriage of loving your husband and placing him second to Christ...something I am still struggling with! Thanks for linking up!

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    1. Thank YOU for hosting such an encouraging linkup!

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  5. "Being married does not make you not need Jesus, it makes you need Him more!" Amen, girl! This is totally true and I completely agree, sometimes being married makes me realize my need for Jesus even more. Like you said, we need Him to be the best wives we can be for our husbands! Thanks for linking up with us, girl!

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    1. Thank you for your sweet words! I LOVE this linkup! :)

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